tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post2432870201987727051..comments2023-12-27T03:20:28.496-05:00Comments on Sisters of a Different Order: Eating Our FeelingsSister Sassyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-12800799028500638622008-05-24T13:46:00.000-04:002008-05-24T13:46:00.000-04:00I think it's a good idea to talk through the feeli...I think it's a good idea to talk through the feelings, good or bad. For example, "You look like you had a rough bus ride home. Tell me about it." "What was that like; getting an A on that test?" I think that teaching kids to notice their feeling when they are good ones kind of trains them to be in the habit of looking at other feelings as well. When we offer kids a cookie to feel better, I think we are saying, "Wow. These feelings are so horrible, you should not face them. Take this, instead, and stuff those feelings away for another time." In general, I think when we don't talk about "the elephant in the livingroom," whatever it is, we send the message that feelings are just too scary to live through, so we should go around them at any cost.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-75221223521663800272008-05-23T21:35:00.000-04:002008-05-23T21:35:00.000-04:00congrats on joining WW...i am a fellow member. yo...congrats on joining WW...i am a fellow member. you will learn all kinds of great tricks there! i like the fact that i don't have to completely deprive myself...i just have to count it! tonight after dinner, i had strawberry shortcake with fat free whipped creme. (not bad and sure helps the sweet tooth) when i'm in a chocolate mood, sugar free instant chocolate pudding usually does the trick. it's not dove, but when you've been eating fruits and veggies, believe me, it tastes as good as dove:)<BR/>happy skinyness!beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08538722105730775272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-43166815727971490262008-05-23T19:31:00.000-04:002008-05-23T19:31:00.000-04:00I've discovered that I do eat sometimes to soothe ...I've discovered that I do eat sometimes to soothe myself when I'm unhappy or restless or bored. I've tried to find ways to play instead. You know, fun stuff that I usually think I'm too busy to do. It does help.Rebecca Ramseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14851717214205302476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-49384782466779307142008-05-23T16:54:00.000-04:002008-05-23T16:54:00.000-04:00I found myself eating crackers or pretzels or popc...I found myself eating crackers or pretzels or popcorn in the evenings, and since I've started knitting while watching TV, I don't have that urge anymore.Cristanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04664922501059244738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-81521401713859232902008-05-23T14:37:00.000-04:002008-05-23T14:37:00.000-04:00I don't know that I eat my emotions, so to speak, ...I don't know that I eat my emotions, so to speak, but I have noticed that I'll eat if I'm bored. I read in a magazine recently that this woman rates her hunger on a scale from one to ten. If she's a six or higher, she'll get something to eat. I thought that was a pretty clever tip, which has helped me realize whether I'm eating because I'm hungry or because I'm bored.Michelle@Life with Threehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02770928322306445408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-48973146688852081762008-05-23T14:31:00.000-04:002008-05-23T14:31:00.000-04:00Can you say GUILT? I'm seriously sitting here read...Can you say GUILT? I'm seriously sitting here reading this with a spoonful of peanut butter in my hand! I do agree with whoever said to get out of the house. Sometimes a short walk is all I need to clear my head... and YES! keeping my hands busy! sewing, crafting, home projects are all things that help me. <BR/><BR/>I think I need to start some of those now. *putting the spoon away* :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-54241277199271278572008-05-23T12:15:00.000-04:002008-05-23T12:15:00.000-04:00Awesome topic. I think I joined WW the same week....Awesome topic. I think I joined WW the same week. I LOVE IT!<BR/><BR/>My child eats the same as us and is 70# and 11 years old. Teenie. How that happened I'll never know.Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330592107479342634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-48483810286624617392008-05-23T11:55:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:55:00.000-04:00For myself, first I have to recognize what I'm doi...For myself, first I have to recognize what I'm doing! I gained 10 lb. while hubby was in law-enforcement academy and didn't realize until after those 7 months were up that I'd been comfort eating the whole time. Can anyone say clueless? So if I recognize it, here's what I do: try to drink a cup of water and pop in a stick of chewing gum. That takes care of my body. For my mind, it helps if I can sit down & write about it. Even if I type it up on the computer and delete it, or sit down and handwrite in my journal (which takes longer and therefore is more therapeutic). If I'm in the recognizing it stage, I'll try to think of some crafty project I can do that's been long-neglected, then I have the sense of accomplishment to go along with occupying my hands. If my hands are busy, they can't put food in my mouth! Which is why knitting rocks :) <BR/><BR/>For the kids, wow this hits home because I have a toddler and already I've totally been rewarding him with treats & such. Maybe a reward for good grades could be to go to a fun, non-food place? Like a discovery museum, or a cool park they don't usually get to go to? Go to a movie alone w/ a parent (skip the popcorn I guess? hehe). The comfort thing is harder, probably encouraging some outdoor activity, or even going for a walk with them. I wish I would choose exercise when I'm low, but I usually just want to sit on the couch with a mindless show on and eat a huge bag of -insert junk food here-. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the post, it's so good to think about!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-16805027169884634272008-05-23T11:43:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:43:00.000-04:00Melode-ff pretzles just aren't as good as chocolat...Melode-ff pretzles just aren't as good as chocolate... maybe chocolate covered FF pretzles?? :)<BR/><BR/>Seester- good ideas!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Ash-shopping can be bad for the pocketbook<BR/><BR/><BR/>LEah, your ideas were great! I just am limited by what I look for and the fact that many times my supports are unavailble/working/busy so I have to work out the stuff on my own. I appreciate your answers and I am with you on what to teach the kids.<BR/><BR/>Jen-self soothing is SO hard. I like Saint Seesters suggestion about reading. That is a way to escape. Of course I'm not a fan of coping vs changing things, but sometimes you need to cope because you might not have the ability to change (like people and such).<BR/><BR/>sigh.. I wish I had a treadmill because sometimes when I'm angry I feel like running.Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-56848091340752396302008-05-23T11:30:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:30:00.000-04:00Oh, I am DEFINITELY an emotional eater. The bigges...Oh, I am DEFINITELY an emotional eater. The biggest triggers for me are loneliness, frustration, and restlessness. Another bad habit I have is occasional smoking--not every day, but maybe 4 or 5 times a week. I "need" to smoke when I'm upset. (Yes, I know how awful it is for me!) I'm trying to develop positive coping and self-soothing mechanisms, but it's definitely a work in progress...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-83734048430642045072008-05-23T11:26:00.000-04:002008-05-23T11:26:00.000-04:00Sassy,My suggestion was intended as the instead to...Sassy,<BR/><BR/>My suggestion was intended as the instead to make them feel better. <BR/><BR/>I don't comfort eat; in fact I starve myself when depressed or stressed.<BR/><BR/>Talking about it to someone who really loves me and cares enough to let me vent and supports me while I work it out in my head is what works for me. <BR/><BR/>You think of it in terms of "instead of food" because that's what you are conditioned for. Your kids don't have that yet. They will accept what you teach them. If you teach them to talk it out so that it can release itself from their minds, that is the comfort practice they will employ.<BR/><BR/>Once I get everything out, say all the things I would have liked to say, say all the things that are wrong with the other person, have a good cry, and indulge in a little self-pity, I find that not only have I released it enough to get a decent night's sleep, but I don't wake up thinking about it. I have a whole new perspective and am energized to go out and deal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-70098995364533976082008-05-23T10:39:00.000-04:002008-05-23T10:39:00.000-04:00I never thought about the bad I am teaching my kid...I never thought about the bad I am teaching my kids when I reward them with food or console them with food. Stuff to think about there. <BR/>The only other thing that makes me feel better than eating food when I am upset is shopping. Nothing like a new pair of shoes to cheer me up. :0) But, the pocketbook can suffer because of that one. I will sometimes go on cleaning spurts when I'm upset too. Nothing like using that frustration to scrub away the dirt in my house!Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-24983975076260855302008-05-23T10:18:00.000-04:002008-05-23T10:18:00.000-04:00When I am in a crappy mood and want to console mys...When I am in a crappy mood and want to console myself with other than food, I usually turn to reading. Or I listen to funkay raunchy music. Of course, most of the time I eat instead. Sigh.<BR/><BR/>I had to laugh at the chocolate chip comment. I did that the other day, got into the baking chips because I wanted some candy! LOL!saintseesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05674271080347529416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-86774377006624620822008-05-23T10:14:00.000-04:002008-05-23T10:14:00.000-04:00I'm definitely an emotional eater, and short of ge...I'm definitely an emotional eater, and short of getting up and leaving the room (or the house) I don't really know how to stop it. I do like to keep pretzels on hand, because they're fat free - which is good as long as you don't eat ALL of them - LOL! <BR/><BR/>I'll hvae to give this one some thought!Eternal Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03542922572824046852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-88688222145768429952008-05-23T09:50:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:50:00.000-04:00yay for losing weight!and tag, you're it!http://ww...yay for losing weight!<BR/><BR/>and tag, you're it!<BR/><BR/>http://www.desperatelyseekingsanity.com/2008/05/23/its-all-trueHeather {Desperately Seeking Sanity}https://www.blogger.com/profile/00243388362771376897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-89722533484240234462008-05-23T09:34:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:34:00.000-04:00These are great ideas, but what I really want to k...These are great ideas, but what I really want to know, is what do you do instead?? <BR/><BR/>When you feel crappy and you want to consol yourself, what do you do to give yourself the warm fuzzies a pint of ice cream does?Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-77862064877752335492008-05-23T09:08:00.000-04:002008-05-23T09:08:00.000-04:00I keep absolutely no junk food in the house. Unme...I keep absolutely no junk food in the house. Unmerciful! But I have been known to open a bag of chocolate chips when I had a serious craving.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-17711394768397736362008-05-23T08:46:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:46:00.000-04:00For the kids, I would get a couple of encouragemen...For the kids, I would get a couple of encouragement books that you can read together when they've had a bad day. Allow the dialogue, questions on how they felt, what they would do differently in the future, who was hurt and why, etc. Follow with big hugs and snuggles, and everyone should not only feel better, but also better prepared to handle a bad day.<BR/><BR/>You can do the same stuff with celebrating. Talk about how it felt, who else was made to feel good, how that felt, what can they do to repeat this, etc. Keep the good feeling and pave the way for more.<BR/><BR/>Those are my suggestions.<BR/><BR/>I want to hear about the big green smoothie too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-57158426333097944952008-05-23T08:28:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:28:00.000-04:00HEather, what is this elusive green smoothie and w...HEather, what is this elusive green smoothie and where is it found? Is it like Wheatgrass or something? Do tell.<BR/><BR/>I am with you on the salads. I think its imparetive to help feel like what you have as a main course is enough. Plus I love salads. What dressings do you use? I have a light ranch I think is good- FF ranch needs to be discontinued. Its the most awful thing.Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-27700732581900482022008-05-23T08:18:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:18:00.000-04:00I'll tell you that nothing controls my hunger like...I'll tell you that nothing controls my hunger like a big green smoothie in the morning and for afternoon snack, and a big green salad before cooked food at dinner. Doing those two things, I'm having trouble getting in 1500 cals a day before 8 pm (my personal cut off time for eating), and I'm a nursing mama who works out 5-6 days a week. Green smoothie, people! :)heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11240132796698104174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-85985009761898783772008-05-23T08:15:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:15:00.000-04:00Glad I could be useful :)...wanna give me the donu...Glad I could be useful :)...wanna give me the donut? lol. Just kidding. I've got weight control oatmeal and I had a really good run today that I wouldn't want to ruin with a donut. Just not worth it.Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-71267029006512747322008-05-23T08:03:00.000-04:002008-05-23T08:03:00.000-04:00I'm not neccessarily an emotional eater, good or b...I'm not neccessarily an emotional eater, good or bad. I just have really sucky will power. <BR/><BR/>If it were not for reading this post right here and having it on the brain, I probably would have eaten the chocolate iced donut on my counter just now.<BR/><BR/>So thank you Sassy you saved me from putting yet another donut on my rear end. :o)Valarie Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03246244572843705930noreply@blogger.com