tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post7998720894778948128..comments2023-12-27T03:20:28.496-05:00Comments on Sisters of a Different Order: Woes of the Working ParentSister Sassyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-5317268761269008792008-02-28T13:05:00.000-05:002008-02-28T13:05:00.000-05:00You are a great mom! And don't you let ANYONE tell...You are a great mom! And don't you let ANYONE tell you (even if only in your head) otherwise. <BR/><BR/>Good post! Keep it coming sister sassy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-35727316467905054962008-02-27T07:07:00.000-05:002008-02-27T07:07:00.000-05:00Gosh, I hear ya, Sassy!As a consultant, it's a big...Gosh, I hear ya, Sassy!<BR/><BR/>As a consultant, it's a big no-no to call in sick. Plus? I hardly ever work, so when I finally have some work, we need that $$ and I want to go to work. <BR/><BR/>How gorgeous is that child of yours? I want to eat him up!<BR/><BR/>xoxoxMarthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17782925951300369029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-72151155312146602892008-02-26T16:51:00.000-05:002008-02-26T16:51:00.000-05:00This really puts my crappy day in perspective! I d...This really puts my crappy day in perspective! I don't know how working moms do it--not only are you dealing with work (which for me is currently INSANELY frustrating), but you're also raising kids, and then one of them gets sick and... All I'm saying is, you deserve a cocktail and a bubble bath!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-19241669579720682832008-02-26T01:04:00.000-05:002008-02-26T01:04:00.000-05:00From one mom of a wheezer to another **Hugs** !PS,...From one mom of a wheezer to another **Hugs** !<BR/><BR/>PS, I'm glad JimmyEW had the smackdown convo with her, because I was getting ready to come up with my Canuck size snow boots and kick some hiney.......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-58388137326489595082008-02-25T20:02:00.000-05:002008-02-25T20:02:00.000-05:00Beck- i think kids are always sick no matter what,...Beck- i think kids are always sick no matter what, huh?<BR/><BR/>Seester-nice they rat you out. I'm sure I can look forward to that one soon. I'm always afraid Kiki will talk about how our house is messy.<BR/><BR/>Anon-thanks for the kudos for running, it felt great. Ran 2 miles today too. <BR/><BR/>Genesis- sorry you missed class :( and the 24 hour rule sucks.<BR/><BR/>High hopes- Poor daughter! My Kiki is a wheezer and had RSV (as did Sawyer) but I totally freak when they get sick. And Daycare Diva has gotten a ton better since JimmyEW had the smackdown coversation with her.<BR/><BR/>Jen-all i can say is AMEN!! I'm with you all the way there :)Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-49449148449339990502008-02-25T16:49:00.000-05:002008-02-25T16:49:00.000-05:00I think part of this, though, is our failings as a...I think part of this, though, is our failings as a country towards our children, our moms (and dads) and our childcare workers. In many other countries, family leave for illness is a right. It's assumed that if children are sick, they need to stay HOME in bed, WITH their parents and that their parents shouldn't have to be making these choices.<BR/><BR/>It's also part and parcel of why we *say* we're all about children (I mean as a country) and we pay our childcare workers such low wages (because it's all working parents can afford to).<BR/><BR/>Ugh... people shouldn't have to make these choices, and my heart goes out to those who do.<BR/><BR/>Alright... off my soapbox now. I'm sorry you and JimmyEW and HB had to do all that scrambling and I hope that Kiki (who's adorable, btw) is better SOON!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362687820368214420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-83121908284156688502008-02-25T15:21:00.000-05:002008-02-25T15:21:00.000-05:00Sister Sassy I have been in these same boots so ma...Sister Sassy <BR/><BR/>I have been in these same boots so many times. I had no family support where I lived until recently and I usually ended up taking the day off and then going in after hours and working until 1 or 2 and then go home and sleep for a couple and then hopefully go to work in the morning. This scenario worked when I had a fulltime co-worker who was at the office, but that has changed and now it is just me there. <BR/><BR/>My dd gets asthma when she gets sick and ends up with bronchitis or pneumonia. We have had this at least 12 times in her short life of 10 years. She has reactive airways, so when she does get sick she gets sick. <BR/><BR/>I have had to do the nest thing at work as a last resort, but it is better than being home. I had a talk with my boss about this because I was so stressed out over it, it was giving me heart palpitations and anxiety attacks when she would get sick. <BR/><BR/>This is one of the hard things about being a working mom. You just do the best you can and hope for the best. As for the Daycare Diva, I don't like her from what you said in your previous post, so she can *#&*@#$@# , hope that addresses that. <BR/><BR/>I feel your pain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-10917726366044263822008-02-25T15:19:00.000-05:002008-02-25T15:19:00.000-05:00I can totally relate. Today's blog was about stuff...I can totally relate. Today's blog was about stuffing my child full of everything healthy and sending her to school. Guess what we forgot, the Tylenol! So much for my new counseling class. I got the call around noon. My daughter had 102 fever which means home the rest of the day and home tomorrow. Ouch! My other daughter spent half of last week home. I just quit working in December and I don't know how I could go back right now. It is just nuts! I love my kids but this is getting kind of crazy. <BR/><BR/>Alright, I'll stop whining now. Just know I feel your pain!<BR/><BR/>Take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-30113137581412768232008-02-25T14:58:00.000-05:002008-02-25T14:58:00.000-05:00I think we have all sent our kids to school/daycar...I think we have all sent our kids to school/daycare doped up on Tylenol or Motrin just because we HAD to...<BR/>Believe me, I would love to be home snuggling on the couch when mine is sick, but it just can't always happen that way.<BR/>And good job on running at work!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-87118048238100507832008-02-25T14:52:00.000-05:002008-02-25T14:52:00.000-05:00From my experience, when they get older that const...From my experience, when they get older that constant illness thing goes away. My daughter was always sick with something, and she was only in preschool for 1/2 days. <BR/><BR/>I swear, sometimes kids just have colds and mystery fevers. There have been several times where they had a fever the night before, but woke up Okay. We have a 24 hour rule here. They are supposed to be fever-free for 24 hours before going back to school. Yeah, okay. Right. So I am at home with a perfectly fine kid who is bouncing off the walls. <BR/><BR/>I usually send them in, but darn if they don't tell every teacher in the school, "Hey guess what? I had fever last night but my mom sent me to school anyway today." Grrrr....saintseesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05674271080347529416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-12387369711945477452008-02-25T14:48:00.000-05:002008-02-25T14:48:00.000-05:00I dunno what working parents can possibly do - I'm...I dunno what working parents can possibly do - I'm glad I don't have to worry about that, because my kids are sick ALL the time, it seems.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-42232974107300868392008-02-25T13:17:00.000-05:002008-02-25T13:17:00.000-05:00Ashlee- your comment made me want to just give you...Ashlee- your comment made me want to just give you a big fat hug. I'm lucky because JimmyEW and I can split shift, I can't imagine being a single parent...so much harder.<BR/><BR/>Little Nothings-thanks for the props! I really appreciate the feedback :)Sister Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15579850974867756364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-14624465596204999662008-02-25T12:36:00.000-05:002008-02-25T12:36:00.000-05:00LOVE this post! Yay for Sassy. I am one of those...LOVE this post! Yay for Sassy. I am one of those moms that has to send my daughter to daycare on days when I'm not exactly sure whether I should or not, I'm one of those that sometimes tries to squeak by with a little more than I probably should (especially if there has just been a holiday or vacation day) and it IS for fear of losing my job, of getting in "trouble" or just knowing that I'm looked down upon cause I'm not there - despite the fact that they knew when they hired me that I was in a foreign state with no family. Aye aye. Even having already known that I might just be one of those Moms on occassional... I really enjoyed how you put it all into perspective with such the right words. Thanks Sassy!Little Nothingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04203455657087220061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-46575594189772930602008-02-25T10:18:00.000-05:002008-02-25T10:18:00.000-05:00I was a single mom for 2 years. My son had RSV wh...I was a single mom for 2 years. My son had RSV when he was not quite 2 months old. Dr's told me that basically his immune system was gone, so he would get sick A LOT. Sigh. So, when he was 3 and I had to deal with daycare it wasn't fun. If I didn't work, I didn't get paid. No vacation days until after your first year. No second income in the household. And I made close to nothing. It stunk. What was even more frustrating was when I would get a call after his nap time and they'd call me to tell me he had a fever, and I'd go pick him up and take him home to realize he was just fun. He's a warm sleeper. I chewed out daycare owner after the 3rd time of that happening. I'll admit that there were mornings that I dosed him up with Tylenol and sent him to daycare knowing he was sick. I would pray that nobody would notice until after naptime, or that it would be gone by naptime so that I could at least get in a 1/2 day of work. When that 1/2 day is the difference between being able to pay your power bill or not...you do what you've gotta do. I don't have family I can drop my kids of to either. No one. I felt like the crappiest mom. My kids mean the world to me. So, I am really feeling your post here. <BR/>Like you said, not every parent is a slacker parent. But in order for that parent to take care of that child FULLY {as in home and heat and food}, sometimes there aren't any other options.Ashleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13088158906170080007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6245589515098482899.post-9283821846806122032008-02-25T08:25:00.000-05:002008-02-25T08:25:00.000-05:00Moms never stop thinking about their kids-whether ...Moms never stop thinking about their kids-whether they are sick or healthy. When we are working, our minds always turn to them. How's Logan doing in school today? He was kind of crabby this morning, I hope he's powered through and is having a good day.<BR/><BR/>When they just have a little cold, we worry. Are they tired, should they be home, will daycare let them just lay on the couch and watch movies, did I choose the right cold medicine.<BR/><BR/>It's hard when you're not with them when they are not feeling 100% healthy, but this is real life. We have to go to work, and their little cold can't always be the priority. No matter how MUCH we would like it to be.<BR/><BR/>Good post Sassy. Good post.Sister Honey Bunch/Judi maloneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00908382097406758687noreply@blogger.com