Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Mean Kids Suck: Part Aaaaaggghhhhh!

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I think I might be having an heart attack. Or I am just all nerved up because I am so angry at a bunch of fifth grade girls who think it's OK to pick on a kindergartner. My kindergartner to be exact.

Logan was at the bus stop and I was sitting at the end of our driveway waiting for him to be picked up so I could head to work. I was drinking my coffee and picking at my nail polish when I looked up and saw Logan kicking all the girls. Kicking them.

I was horrified and started shouting at him to stop. Then the bus came and I drove to work wondering how I had managed to raise a bully when I'm just a big old wimp myself.

When I picked Logan up later that day he told me the girls were calling him names and he didn't like it. It made sense to his 5 1/2 year old brain that the way to shut. them. up. was to kick them in the shins. And while it worked, I had to explain to him that I don't think kicking girls is cool. Even if they're obnoxious fifth graders who think it's OK to pick on a small child.

I want Logan to always defend himself, but I put an end to the kicking. I told him that if they start saying mean things again to just get in their faces and tell them to knock it off. Tell them they can't call him names. I also told him that girls can sometimes suck.

I certainly don't think all girls are mean. I was one of the nice ones. I hated watching the mean girls make fun of people, and whisper in front of others, and laugh when someone made a mistake. Why do they act that way? A friend of mine has a theory that mean girls have mean moms.

I told Logan I was going to wait with him at the bus stop the next morning. He begged me to not do that. He wanted to handle the situation all on his own. He didn't want his mama fighting his battle.

When he walked up to the bus stop the next day I was ready. If those girls did one single thing that seemed out of line, I was going to have a little chat with them. But they didn't do anything. As a matter of fact they were very nice and all the kids talked and laughed while they waited for the bus.

That night when I was putting Logan to bed I asked him about it. He said,
"I asked God to make them be nice. And he did."

Hmph. Alrighty then. Why hadn't I thought of that?

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OK. And in completely and totally unrelated -but-oh-so-freaking-happy news, Jenny Garth has signed on to reprise her role as Kelly Taylor on the new 90210.

Dude. I don't care if this makes you think less of me. This is some of the best news I have heard in a long time. Shut up.




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15 comments:

womaninawindow said...

It's just so hard to help our kids be with mean people, isn't it? I don't know what the magic solution is. I'm kind of pained over it right now. Maybe I should ask for devine intervention?

Jen of A2eatwrite said...

Good for Logan! You Sister Folk are raising some boys RIGHT up North!

As far as the mean girls thing goes... during my many, many years as a teacher, they seemed to fall into two categories - those who were insecure and those who were MORE insecure. And yes, a lot have moms who were probably mean girls. What's really needed is for an adult to show them other ways to deal with their insecurities - like try to build these poor girls up and remind them that it's not all about looking good - it's BEING good. Sad, sad, sad.

Heather @ Desperately Seeking Sanity said...

The comeback of 90210 ranks right up there but slightly below the return of NKOTB. I KNEW 2008 was going to be a good year...

add a man for me into the mix and it will be the best year EVER!

abrightfuture said...

Wait -- there's going to be a new 90210?!?!? That is wonderful news. And who doesn't love Kelly??

Ashlee said...

So proud of your little one. Not for kicking :0) but for knowing that a little prayer never hurts. His mommy must have taught him something right! :0) I hate bullies too. And there's something about the bus and bullies, too. My son gets picked on when he rides the bus too. I hate those days when I see him walk to the house from the bus stop with his head hung low. I know someone said something. Sigh. I'm trying to teach him to let it slide off his back, but it's hard when you are so little and you don't understand. :0(

Valarie said...

I would have wanted to say something too, your a good Mommy to let him try and figure things out on his own. Its just so hard to watch it happen. You obviously have taught him well, I mean look at how he did it. :)

High Hopes said...

HB we have had situations like that pop up at our school. We have dealt with it as a school issue, because if it is going on at a bus stop it is going on in the school yard. I would encourage you to talk to the principal or VP at your school, these children need to know it is not okay to bully anywhere.

We have a very proactive stance at our school when dealing with kids who engage in this behavior. We help the ones who are bullying to deal with issues and know there are consequences and we help the one being bullied with strategies and let them know that they are protected.

Good on your little man for praying!

High Hopes said...

HB we have had situations like that pop up at our school. We have dealt with it as a school issue, because if it is going on at a bus stop it is going on in the school yard. I would encourage you to talk to the principal or VP at your school, these children need to know it is not okay to bully anywhere.

We have a very proactive stance at our school when dealing with kids who engage in this behavior. We help the ones who are bullying to deal with issues and know there are consequences and we help the one being bullied with strategies and let them know that they are protected.

Good on your little man for praying!

kspin said...

Sometimes mean girls need a good kicking in the shins though too! Not that I'm condoning it, just sayin... :) What a sweet boy you have there. You should be very proud!

Cristan said...

1) I agree with mean mom = mean girl

2) NEW 90210?!?!?! Seriously? They were in MY GRADE! Class of 93. I can't wait!

Shalee said...

Logan totally rocks... you know that, right?

Doodles said...

Logan is a smart kid! That is an interesting theory....about mean girls/mean moms...hmmmmm and probably right!

I'm holding out for a Melrose Place return!

Melissa @ The Inspired Room said...

Good for your son on kicking those girls in the shins. Oh, well, I mean, that was not the right thing to do. Definitely not. But sometimes you just have to secretly cheer when you see justice being served to mean girls. We saw some mean girls bullying one of our daughters on the playground many years ago and I know my husband wanted to kick them in the shins when he witnessed it! But, he didn't. Thank goodness.

I hope those girls will think twice next time before messing with your son!!

Well Behaved Krissy said...

I have a kindergarden Logan myself. He has also had some kids pick on him at his after school and I could tell something was up so we did some bibliotherapy (love that word, makes me sound so edjumecated). Anyways, the point of the bibliotherapy is to read a book that will trigger the kid to talk about what they're feeling from the CHARACTER's pov. So we were reading Just a Bully by Mercer Mayer(and who DOESNT love Mercer Mayer) and I thought it crazy that in the book basically the little critter has to finally get into a slug-fest with the bully and have his little sister PUSH him before the bully gets the message and backs off. So Logan and I were talking:
Me: What would you do if someone was picking on you like critter had?
Lo: I would tell the teacher (check mark from mama)
Me: Then what would you do if it got WORSE after you told, like it did for critter?
Lo: I'd tell the teacher again and again.
Me: What did critter do in this story?
Lo: He got into a fight. I think he beat the *hell* out of em.

Ahhh... the joys of motherhood. It never fails to remind you that you screw up every day.

Liza's Eyeview said...

Good for Logan. I am proud of him. Don't let the mean girls call him names; and yes prayer works! :)